Being A Single Father

The world is full of mysteries. There are people who don't ever acknowledge their parents and there are people who wish to be with both their parents forever. There are people who are not embraced with such blessings and some of them are the kids who are raised by single parents, either by their mother or father. It's not an easy task for their single parents to rear them up and give enough love and affection to compensate the missing parent. Single fathers are the fathers who have become primary caretakers due to estrangement, death of their spouse or choice. These fathers need to develop motherhood and other feminine qualities to associate themselves with innocent kids. They need to step into a mother's shoes so that the children do not miss the presence of their mothers. It's really not an easy task for a man to raise kids in the same fashion as a mother does. The basic reason behind this is the masculine characteristics and a father's tough stance towards life. Following are some of the tips you can apply as single father for better tomorrow of you as well as your kids.

Develop Independence
It's very important for you as well as your kids that you do not become a wall for them at which they can lean on all the time. Do not try to over-protect them too, as it will restrain them from growing up and becoming independent; so give them independence to make their own choices and more importantly, stick to those decisions.

Understand Your Child's Behavior
It is also important to understand the behavior of your child, so try to befriend him/her and let him/her discuss with you whatever he/she wants to. Do not get overwhelmed or overreact. Observe him/her and you will get to know what is bothering him/her.

Accept Mistakes
No kid willingly wants to make mistakes, so accept the mistakes. Though they generally put in sincere effort towards their duties, they get easily distracted by the things around them. Accept the mistakes and let them float in the world with experience they gain by committing those mistakes.

Prioritize Your Priorities
Since the whole responsibility of homemaking is on your shoulders, you have to take care of each and everything - from domestic matters to your kid's performance in exams to your own life. To make everything go smooth, prioritize everything well in advance so that you don't run after things at the last moment.

Speak Up
You gain nothing out of boiling issues within your head and vomiting them out when you are not supposed to do so, usually at some wrong place. It is suggested that you have some friends, colleagues or counselor to share your problems and emotions with.

Spend Time With Your Children
Many divorced fathers find it cumbersome to devote time to their kids since they have lots of daily chores to manage. This makes children feel aloof and ignored. Single father should spend some quality time with kids doing productive activities.